Are you, like so many, feeling utterly stuck lately? Struggling-to-accomplish-things yet not-getting-anywhere stuck? Not-sure-what-the-future-holds stuck? Or the 2020-lock-down-not-feeling-motivated-to-get-off-your-couch stuck?
Spoiler Alert: Just so you know, fear is the glue keeping you stuck. And, my fave acronym for FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real.
The good news is, understanding why you’re stuck can open the door to a deeper understanding of how you tick.
Plus, accepting rather than fighting stuckness can help you understand how life works.
With stuckness, there’s usually a surface-level fear that’s easy to pinpoint. But there’s always deeper, usually subconscious fear underneath that’s the real stickiness. Usually it’s the flip side of what you think you’re afraid of.
One of my students was struggling to start his own business. He would take one step forward and three back, again and again. With all the money and time he was investing, he was terrified about failing this risky venture. Staying stuck was 'safer' than failing.
While working with him to find out what was really going on under the surface, he discovered his Real Fear: Being successful.
Subconsciously, he believed he couldn’t handle the recognition as well as the abundance that would come with success. Locating the programmed source of this fear freed him up to forge ahead and become a wildly successful entrepreneur. (I can help with that)
Determining your Real Fear takes the oomph out of it. Plus, seeing how silly it is can free you from buying into it.
Your primitive, fear-based consciousness spends a lot of time desperately trying to convince that you don’t have the power to change.
That part of you actually enjoys being stuck. It perceives stuckness as certainty and predictability, which feels cozy, safe and secure. Yes, even if getting unstuck would mean freedom, joy and success.
It relishes the “payoffs” it gets for being stuck -- attention, pity, being rescued, etc.
Life is constantly trying to remind you to trust the perfection as everything unfolds. These globally stuck times could possibly end up being the most growth filled for all.
Here’s the truth: You are the creator of your life (but have forgotten). It’s scary to admit your Big Power, so you don’t, resulting in stuckness. Once you know how powerful you truly are, stuckness can go bah-bye.
Dealing with Stuckness
Often, right before big changes are about to happen, things get extremely stuck.
This is simply the ebb before the flow, the necessary incubation period that can lead to bursting forth and flourishing. Ebb-time is about getting ready, integrating what you’ve learned and resting up to be energized for your next unknown adventure.
Stuckness is believing there are limited choices.
So, if there seems to be only one or two choices and neither is working, there just might be another choice that hasn't arrived or you haven’t noticed yet. Discovering it will make sense of why those options didn’t work.
Acknowledge what you fear most about getting unstuck; recite your “worst case scenarios” even if they sound silly or irrational. Fear is only as powerful as you believe it to be, so don’t buy into those rants, just spew them out without edit.
Just do it. Sometimes taking action, even baby steps or symbolic gestures, gives a message to the Universe that you are ready to be unstuck. It also helps your fear-based consciousness see that you’ll be okay. Really.
The more permanent way to get unstuck is to locate and release those programmed false beliefs running your internal show. (I can help with that)
As the creator of your life, remember these manifesting steps: Send out a clear intention; visualize exactly what you want; and imagine yourself and life once received. If fear shows up, just acknowledge it as False Evidence Appearing Real.
Put this somewhere as a constant reminder: You are here to do something only you can do, and nothing works until you do it. That’s the not-so-subtle pie-in-the-face message from the Universe.
Now, wipe off those crumbs and get unstuck!
Royce Morales, a renowned transformational facilitator, developer and teacher of Perfect Life Awakening, offers unique breakthrough tools to discover and resolve the roots of negative, self-sabotaging, inner programming. This inner work awakens and empowers you by overcoming limiting beliefs, shifting consciousness and resolving what's keeping you from a life of deservingness and true joy.
Contact Royce for a free fifteen minute consultation to see if this inner-journey work is a good fit.
Royce is the author of three fascinating books about her teachings: “Want: True love, past lives and other complications;” “Know: A spiritual wake-up call;” and “Back: Rebirth After Stroke,” all available on amazon.com