Have you ever walked into a party and felt like an outsider? Maybe you’re the only one wearing jeans, or you’re older than everyone, or you don’t know anyone there.
In other words, you felt like you didn't belong. You felt disconnected, unappreciated, and maybe even unsafe. Did you start jumping through hoops to try to connect? Or did you sit by yourself in a corner playing with your phone, separating even further? Maybe you just left muttering to yourself I hate parties; they're always like this.
Do you react that way even when there’s nothing external to blame?
Do you feel different, disconnected and separate even when you are safely at home?
Truthfully, that feeling doesn’t happen because you’re wearing jeans or because of the number of years you’ve been on the planet. It’s from a false inner belief that says I don’t deserve to connect.
Then, no matter what you do or how hard you try, life reflects that false notion. All. The. Time.
We all have a natural need to belong. Every friendship we have, every relationship we get into, comes from that innate desire.
When you arrived in a body, you felt a strong sense of connection with everyone, everything and all of life. Why? Because you still had a strong connection with your higher consciousness. Who you really are, a spirit in a body, knows there is no separation; that we are all the same manifesting in unique ways.
Pretty soon, you started losing that inner connection. You bought into the fears dictated by your primitive, survival-based consciousness. You saw that you were capable of hurting others and you separated more from your true spiritual essence.
The result? You felt more separate from yourself, others and life because you now believe you don’t deserve to connect.
In order for it to be right about those choices you made, your fear-based consciousness needs to convince you that you are different from others. Why? So you can stay separate and therefore safe.
Yet, because you intrinsically want to belong, fully knowing on a higher level that you already do, an inner war is now raging. This primary duality is now subconsciously running your show, like an open computer tab in the background.
This scenario is the source of every life issue, both personally and globally.
Yet keep in mind that you chose this challenge -- being a spirit in a physical existence -- to remember that you are the same as everyone else, yet not needing to prove that. Simultaneously, you are here to remember that you have a unique purpose to fulfill, yet not needing to prove you are different.
The truth is you are heart-wired to belong. Because you already do.
Belonging isn’t found in an external location. It doesn’t happen by acting the way you think people want, or by not wearing jeans to parties. Connecting by being inauthentic feels empty. Compromising your true self to belong is living a lie and will ultimately fail.
Remember that you chose to be here to help the world evolve to real connectedness.
Re-connecting from within, deserving to belong to yourself, will help get us there.
The work Royce does helps you discover and resolve what has closed your heart. This profound work assists you in releasing false programmed notions so you re-discover and re-connect with your authentic self. It takes you from triggered to empowered to help end subconscious self-sabotage. Perfect Life Awakening brings spirituality down to earth with tools you can apply in any situation.
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