WE JUST DISAGREE
Being in lockdown for months has probably made you exceptionally well-informed about what’s going on in the world.
Which translates to mean you’re probably filled with concern, dismay or even downright panic.
Prior to now, you rarely ventured into voicing your opinion on “touchy” topics. But lately, all timidity has been tossed by the wayside. Without self-censoring, you’re letting it rip, barely concerned with the fallout.
Occasionally, you question why you’re so obsessively going there, even though you know how ineffective it is. Afterall, you’ve been futilely debating political policies with your opposite-wing uncle every Thanksgiving. You’ve hopelessly presented facts to your racially illiterate boss. To no avail, you challenge anti-maskers as they flaunt scientific ignorance (and germs) in public places.
With everything that’s going on, you not only feel justified, but you believe it’s imperative to not sit back rolling your eyes in silence anymore.
It’s not pretty as your inner civil war rages out without restraint. Angry words are posted behind the anonymous curtain of social media. Those who challenge your (ofttimes) fact-based research and unarguable opinions are trolled, or instantly unfriended in a huff.
You’re bewildered as your seemingly important words only add more fuel to the other side’s fire, never resulting in die-hard opinion changes or political side-switching.
You wonder why in heck you’re even bothering, yet you're compelled to continue. Heavy sigh ensues.
The Real Questions
Is it even possible for people to ‘agree to disagree,’ as the saying goes?
The deeper question is: Why is it so important to have people agree with you, to be “in your tribe” or on your side?
When someone has differing (or what you believe are incorrect) views, what instantly happens is your buttons get pushed. It feels like a personal afront, like being judged as stupid, wrong, or even a liar. Even if you have facts proving your firm stance.
That's devastating to your primitive, fear-based, programmed consciousness since it feels like a huge loss. Deeper, it symbolizes loss of approval or love, the worst thing ever as far as it’s concerned.
No matter how you logically justify your reactions, if they’re emotionally charged, they’re coming from unresolved, subconscious pain being brought to the surface.
Keep in mind that, besides anger, those reactions can show up as sadness, judgmentalness, sarcasm, needing to be right, a strong desire to strike back or leave the situation.
Truth is, when a button is pushed, it’s really just exposing an aspect of you that you’re in denial of. It’s showing you some way you were being that you’ve hidden really well, or something you did in the past that you’ve “forgotten” about.
Those memories are tucked back in the corner of your subconscious mind and they’re not typically easy to remember or admit. However, by determining what’s being “mirrored” to you from that button, you instantly feel less rage and can even lighten up about the situation.
Should You Say Something?
Sometimes, responsibly sharing about buttons and mirrors is a healing gift that can assist others by example. Yet, because it’s much easier to angrily blame, get your tribe to agree that “the other” is a jerk, most choose to avoid the situation completely.
However, one of your spiritual “assignments” is to love one another, so it’s important to discuss things that yank you out of love.
If you do choose to talk, keep these three factors in mind: Trust yourself – you’ll know what to say; be responsibly appropriate; and don’t come from trying to get them to change.
Explain that your buttony reaction was just a personal issue being brought to the surface. If it seems appropriate, go one step further and acknowledge the mirror they’re showing you, maybe even thanking them for the gift!
By modeling how to responsibly talk through a button, that “other” may just walk through the door you opened and do the same. *Curtain closes as you both fade back to love*
Imagine if enough people did that -- it would completely change the world.
Certainly, there’d be no need for family feuds or endless wars if we all just took out some Windex and cleaned our mirrors.
Agree to be that person.
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