When you were learning to walk, you probably fell down dozens of times.
But do toddlers think they’re failures when they fall down learning to walk? They may cry a bit (or maybe a lot), but they get back up and try again and again, until suddenly they’re walking! And soon after that, they’re running.
Truth is, you were designed to bounce back up after “failure.”
But as you experienced more events that were labeled as “failures,” you started losing that innate bounce. Witnessing family, friends and society’s attitude, it got even harder to not define yourself as a failure.
But, that bouncing back ability can return. And with it will come your superpower.
Why You Lost That Bounce
Honestly, if you had no fear of losing love and approval, you’d never feel like a failure.
So, why are you so darn afraid of losing love and approval? Because of times you did hurtful things and decided to stop loving and approving of yourself.
Since your ultimate capital ‘P’ Purpose in being alive is to love, each time you reacted from fear, part of you decided “I failed at love. Therefore, I'm a failure.”
That powerful thought became your inner programming, and you've been living from it 24/7. From then on, every time you felt like you failed at something, more evidence was piled on, giving you more reasons to give up, not try, be hopeless.
And not bounce back.
Yep, no one can “make you” feel like a failure except yourself. Others and situations are simply reflections of what you already (falsely) believe about being a failure.
Your primitive, fear-based, programmed consciousness actually doesn’t want you to bounce out of that failure place. It loves the feeling of so-called “safety” it gets there, as well as pity, rescuing and attention from others. And, certainly no one expects much from a “failure.”
Yet, it's equally terrified of failure, with life becoming a constant struggle to make sure no one knows what a failure you actually believe you are.
A Higher Perspective
On the other hand, your Higher Consciousness has completely different notions about "failure."
It doesn’t perceive anything you do or who you are as a failure. It knows that everything you go through is a way to wake up so you can evolve and remember who you really are: A loving, powerful, deserving being.
Your ever-so-wise Higher Consciousness doesn’t have expectations as to what “success” is supposed to look like since you’re here to learn about love in whatever way works. So there truly is no failure!
Sometimes what appears to be a “failure” is your clever Higher Consciousness taking you in a different direction. Like a business failing so you can be the artist you were meant to be.
Higher Consciousness sees “failure” as an unrecognized gain, like drastically pruning a rose bush so it can produce more flowers in the upcoming spring.
Last but not least, your Higher Consciousness has you repeat “failures” until you finally get the message that failure does not exist.
The Truth is, you’ve never failed, nor can you ever fail.
Once you really get that everything is a Perfect kick-in-the-butt trying to get you back to love, the necessity of the lesson of failure is complete.
So, back to that toddler: It’s as ridiculous to judge a toddler as a “failure” when they fall down learning to walk as it is to judge yourself as a “failure” when you fall down learning to love!
And, it’s time to take some bigger steps. Why not? You can’t fail!
Royce Morales, a renowned transformational facilitator, developer and teacher of Perfect Life Awakening, offers unique, breakthrough, spiritually-based tools to discover and resolve the roots of self-sabotaging, negative inner programming. This profound inner work awakens and transforms you by overcoming limiting beliefs, shifting your consciousness and resolving what's keeping you from a life of deservingness and true joy.
Contact Royce for a free fifteen minute consultation to see if this inner-journey is a good fit.
Royce is the author of three fascinating books about her teachings: “Want: True love, past lives and other complications;” “Know: A spiritual wake-up call;” and “Back: Rebirth After Stroke,” all available on amazon.com