Are you one of the many humans who's afraid to cry? Do you associate crying with weakness? Or being a crybaby? Or opening scary floodgates of emotions that you’ve been holding back forever? How are you distracting yourself to escape from simply feeling?
We go to extraordinary lengths not to feel our emotions, especially sadness. We build forts to ensure that our tears never get past the corners of our eyes. If someone cries in front of us, we immediately try to fix them. Or attempt to make light of their pain. Or panic at their “break down.”
Helping people for over four decades to get in touch with their lifetimes of suppressed tears, crying is a healthy and much needed release. I actually get concerned if a client doesn’t cry during a session!
\When someone cries in front of me I see it as a sign of strength, as well as a sign of the strength of our relationship. It’s a gift when a friend gives me a safe space to feel my emotions, not try to handle them, offer advice or tell me everything’s going to be okay.
Witnessing another’s pain with compassion is not always easy since it triggers our own unresolved, unfelt pain. It takes practice, patience and mindfulness to just sit in silence, getting it. It may seem like you aren't doing enough, but all people really want is to be heard, understood and cared about.
With so much sadness going on in the world, seems the Big Message is being present for each other. It's our next evolutionary step. Not just offering support, but looking within, recognizing what is being reflected about your own denial.
The world is a perfect mirror. It constantly exposes what you are suppressing. The tears it sheds are asking you to look at what you are doing -- to the environment, as well as to your internal environment; with your anger and the fear that is underneath it; in the division in society showing the division within you.
It’s up to each of us to muster the courage to look deeply within to see what is going on inside. To observe our unshed tears. To feel our sadness, our confusion, our hopelessness. Our fear.
Why? So we can build a new and better world by building a new and better world within ourselves. This requires each of us to grow, evolve, and be brave enough to cry over what was and what is.
If you have never been encouraged to think about your own emotional well-being or to feel whatever you are feeling, it may not be easy to let tears flow effortlessly. Give yourself permission to cry at things that bring you sadness as well as things that bring joy. Shed tears when something is touching. Or beautiful. Or awakening.
Crying allows you to feel alive, to feel human. It helps you feel connected to our common humanity, our shared dreams and why we are here. It is the flow of building a more authentic world together.
Royce Morales is a renowned spiritual trailblazer who has been teaching her innovative approach to inner transformation for decades. She developed Perfect Life Awakening, a spiritually based program, to take you from triggered to empowered!
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