The term healthy boundaries has become a catchphrase. Not setting boundaries gets the blame for all kinds of relationship struggles. The intention of setting boundaries is to engage in relationships that align with your values, courageously standing up for yourself and what is important to you.
Unhealthy boundaries means there is an imbalance in a relationship. Someone is not respecting the other in some way.
But, since all that happens in life is a precise mirror of how much or how little you believe you deserve, on some level you are attracting that imbalance. If a boundary is requested and not respected, a subconscious part of you did not believe you were worthy of being honored.
Even if you do not recognize or agree with the role you are playing, mirrors are always accurate. No matter how much you nag, threaten or storm out, there is something about yourself being reflected.
Being responsible in this way is over-the-top challenging. It is much easier to feel resentful, victimized and try all kinds of methods to force your boundaries to be observed.
Instead, by taking a deep look inside, acknowledging your mirrored subconscious denial, things can shift. Sometimes in miraculous ways.
Here is the dichotomy: The more deserving you feel, the less you will even need to set boundaries. You will be living from trusting whatever comes your way, observing what is being reflected, grateful for the opportunities to awaken from your denial.
And, if you do set boundaries, you will do so from love rather than fear. Chances are your pure intention will then be listened to and followed. If your request happens to not be respected, you will not feel resentful, but will look within to ask what was energetically preventing it on your end.
Not having or respecting healthy boundaries within yourself is crucial to address. Expecting others to respect boundaries you set for them when you are not respecting boundaries for yourself will always backfire in some way.
The expression do as I say not as I do is the operative here, with the mirror once more exposing the truth.
Inner boundary setting is not about setting rules, restrictions, constraints, suppression.
Rather, it is about deserving to make and keep commitments to the quality of your life, your wellness, your principles, your evolution, your authenticity, your soul purpose.
Some of the most important things in life depend on your ability to set and enforce your inner boundaries. The benefits that come are life changing.
Next time you find yourself wondering why others do not respect your boundaries, reflect on your relationship with your internal boundaries. Do you feel deserving of honoring yourself? How committed are you to your truth? Your purpose in being? Are you coming from love rather than fear?
Know that you deserve to set and implement healthy and healing inner boundaries.
Then, see what gets mirrored.
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